Message to a sofeminine friend.... this was the email I couldn't send you because it was too long to send as a message.

I wrote you a long reply last night clicked "send" and the "internet explorer cannot display this page...."came up and I lost the lot! I was so mad because it was such a long one!Not that I'm qualified to give you advice but I'll give it a go if that's ok and just take from it as little or as much as you want to.About you new man, perhaps ask yourself these questions and then give yourself honest answers.

1. On a daily basis do you feel you're trying to make it work more than he is and resenting him because he's not putting as much in as you? And is that resentment building up to a point it's beginning to annoy you?,,,,2. Has he ever said or done anything that has made you think to yourself, "God I don't like him as much as I thought I did after that?",,,,,3. Have your children ever made any negative or derogatory comments about him?,,,, 4. Do you trust him 110% on absolutely everything and if not have you talked to him about your doubts?,,,,,5. Can you see yourself being with him in 6 months, 12 months or 18 months and beyond?

At work I get the same thing all the time about my woefully inadequate personal life. It's the same questions all the time and I just give the same replies now because people ask me so often.

Q1. Is there a man on the scene Sandra?
A1. No besides a couple of bad hiccups and there hasn't been since my son was born in 1991, there isn't a man on this planet you can trust.

Q2. Have you met anyone yet Sandra?
A1. What to you think (roll eyes to heaven and walk off at being asked the same question again for the tenth time that day)!

Q3. Isn't anyone you like Sandra?
A3. Yes but they wouldn't take a second look at me at this weight (puff cheeks out to show fat face)

Then it decends into pity...... part two in next blog entry.....